Healthy Eating for Mums and Kids

It’s a huge challenge for mums: How to feed yourself & your kids (preferably the same) healthy family food on a daily basis.

I have recently started working with an absolutely lovely client who has quite a mealtime challenge on her hands: 4 kids, aged 4-10, two of whom are autistic. “Fussy Eaters” doesn’t apparently even begin to describe!

Meals need to be not only child-friendly, but with food ingredients separate, a plate that can be recreated visually every time & of course appealing to the eye…

We have come up with a few ideas that will hopefully point this very overworked mum, who has neither the time, the interest, or the inclination to spend more than 10 minutes in the kitchen preparing a meal, in the direction of healthier eating for her whole family.

Whether you are dealing with the same challenges as this mum or not, chances are you might have “fussy” toddlers or children who make choosing healthy meals a challenge, &/or you might not be much of a foodie or a cook yourself.

If any of the above apply, hopefully this idea might help!

My 4 YO daughter has a favourite tea. She calls it the ‘Picnic Tea’ & it is endlessly flexible, as well as being very healthy for all of you. It also translates rather well to lunch boxes…

Basically it is any of the following on a plate, or in separate bowls on the table, whatever works for your clan.

The Rules are: 1 protein (could be nuts, nut butter, egg, meat, fish or any beans, like chickpeas or kidney beans); at least one fruit & at least 2 vegetables; a full grain carb (the oatcakes, crackers, bread, pasta, rice, quinoa…

Just pick a selection (the same selection every time if necessary) either for individual plates or put everything in bowls on the table for you all to help yourselves.

Give them the Rules, & let them dig in!

Pick a protein:

Hard boiled egg

Good handful of brazils, almonds or other nuts

Good dollop of nut butter (unsalted, unsweetened peanut butter, cashew or almodn butter) on your bread / oatcakes / bread

Tinned fish (tuna, salmon, sardines)

Strips of cooked chicken, beef or turkey

Cheese (don’t use dairy as your protein more than twice a week)

Beans / Pulses (chickpeas, kidney beans, cannelini beans – you can buy all these in tins, ready cooked – they just need to be drained. Try stirring some pesto sauce out of the jar into them.

Pick a minimum 2 vegetables, such as:

A few cherry tomatoes

Cucumber sticks

Carrot sticks

Broccoli florets

Slices of peppers

Cauliflower florets (all of the above are raw)

Avocado slices

Corn on the cob (cooked!)

Then a  minimum of 1:

Chopped up fruit: apple, pear, banana, plums, mango… anything you like

Handful of grapes, blueberries, strawberries… or any other berries

And finally one of

Oatcakes

Wholegrain bread

Wholegrain crackers (like ryvita)

Cooked rice

Cooked pasta (wholegrain please)

Cous cous or quinoa – follow instructions on the packet – takes less than 5 mins

IF you want to,  add herbs, dressing, or a splash of extra virgin olive oil or balsamic vinegar. Try adding something to dip the veggies into like hummous or plain, unsweetend yoghurt (that’s your protein sorted…).

OR if your fmaily is of the ‘keep it plain & simple’ preference, then add nothing at all! Another bonus of this way of eating, is that whilst you’re all eating the same food – together – you can adapt your own plate to taste with more seasoning or flavours if you want to.

It’s not going to win any recipe book prizes, but its healthy, fresh food, very quickly prepared & served.

Please share your meal-time challenges or bright ideas! And if your family is coping with autism in any form & its connotations for serving varied, healthy food, I’d be absolutely delighted to hear your strategies & experiences!

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  • http://feedingboys.wordpress.com Katie

    This is a fantastic aproach to simple healthy eating. Giving kids choices makes them feel empowered. My kids love raw sugar snap peas and also frozen peas still frozen!!!!! Popcorn is also a fun snack food you can make with them. Mini brioche rolls aren’t hugely healthy but can make a change from ordinary bread once in a while. The sweetness gets them munching!

  • http://mutusystem.com wendy

    Thanks Katie – great to discover your blog, what great recipes! Going to add you to my blogroll!

    I love the frozen peas & popcorn ideas. I’m going to have to disapprove of the brioche for being over-refined sugar essentially, but that beacause I’m bossy & a horrible mother who feeds her kids lentils ;) ) Thanks & I will defineitly be trying out some of your recipes!

  • Sarah

    We make smoothies a lot for breakfast or snacks, it’s fun for everyone to get involved in and a great way to get a few extra portions of fruit inside the kids! I usually vary the ingredients a lot but the basics are the following:

    base – either plain yogurt (goats, cow or soya) or milk (cow, goats, rice, almond, soya, hemp)

    fruit – 3 types of fruit, some fresh, some frozen (frozen berries are great and you can buy ready frozen tubs in the supermarket).

    extras – chuck in oats and / or nuts and seeds especially if you are making them at breakfast!

    • Sarah

      Sorry – should have said, chuck it all in the blender and blend well (take care with nuts/seeds to be sure they are all blended) – probably obvious but just in case…!

      • http://mutusystem.com/ wendy

        Thanks Sarah, these are brilliant!

  • http://kitegreenland2011.wordpress.com Heidi

    The eldest of my three children is autistic, he is 6 and like any self respecting autie, is very particular about his meals. We have a repertoire of dishes that everyone enjoys – basic nursery food like spaghetti, sausages or casseroles – and I try to introduce new foods to Sami in small steps using lots of reinforcement and praise if he so much as smell or licks it. However, usually it’s a case of ‘choose your battles’ – as long as he eats balanced meals and is in good health, I tend not to get worked up if he chooses to eat white sliced bread instead of the meal I cooked. More important than the exact nutritional content of his meal for us in light of his autism is the mealtime as a social occasion, teaching him independence such as eating with cutlery, clearing up his plate, saying thank you, asking for things and communicating. We are lucky though with him as his favourite food is green vegetables and could exist for weeks on peas alone! Red peppers on the other hand are the food of the devil and must not be anywhere near his plate….

    • http://mutusystem.com/ wendy

      That’s really helpful Heidi – especially the insights about the aspects of mealtimes (other than the food itself) which are so important for Sami’s development. Thank-you!

  • http://www.cardstitching.co.uk Sam

    Hi Wendy

    Love the blog ;)

    I have two boys with Autism/Aspergers. I was always told (by the Health Dept) like Heidi says, to ‘choose my battles’ – and unfortunately behaviours always came before diet. Therefore, I now have two boys with the worse diets imaginable.

    I am finding the initial fight is coping with the terror of change. Just by changing/introducing one extra food on a plate can stop a ‘normally liked’ meal being refused and never eaten again. This also applies to a label change on a product (when will manufacturers ever learn)

    Introducing a new food and changing a routine causes huge changes in behaviour and sleepless nights.

    By trying to introduce even sightly healthier foods at dinner time, my oldest son (9) watches me with tear filled horror in his eyes from the moment he returns from school to the moment he absolutely refuses to touch his dinner plate and beg to be sent to bed so that he doesn’t have to eat it.

    My youngest son (7), even though he is built like a piece of string with very little language again, point blank refuses to eat anything vaguely different on his plate. Unfortunately with him, I have the added behaviours of the plate being throw across the room unless I nail it down.

    Unfortunately, neither of my sons can be encouraged /bribed with the standard stickers etc as they do not respond to these forms of motivation.

    BUT, this IS a battle I have now chosen and even IF they only eat one healthier meal in the next six month, it is one meal better than now.

    Sam
    x

    • Wendy Powell

      Wow Sam.

      Your determination to follow your resolve through is inspirational. Most of us have a hissy fit or a bit of teatime drama & your experience makes this pale into insignificance. *SO* proud of you for making the changes & being so determined to improve their diet, however hard it continues to be.

  • http://www.mrsljhall.wordpress.com MrsLJHall

    I have 2 sons and 2 stepsons. My youngest stepson (7) is autistic. My stepsons both in general prefer to eat microwave meals and jam sandwiches and we fight a losing battle with trying to get them to eat ‘real’ food. I recently made a ‘healthy meal game’ to play with our 4 boys in order to get 1 of them in particular to eat better. It was very much one of those ‘worth a try’ things but it worked beautifully. Whether it would have success a second time I don’t yet know.

    • http://mutusystem.com/ wendy

      I love that solution MrsLJ! Great idea

      • http://www.cardstitching.co.uk Sam

        What a great suggestion MrsLJHall……I am prepared to try ANYTHING other than give in.

        Sam
        x

  • http://paris-ankara.blogspot.com/ Sandrine

    My son is autistic and went from eating everything as a toddler to being very fussy. Everytime we put something a bit out of the ordinary on the table he would announce loud and clear that he didn’t like it. Last year, we ended up eating a lot of Bolognese and Chili and pizza, just to keep things easy. As a result, we’re overweight and a bit bored! So we reintroduced salads and vegetable dishes to our table – making a conscious effort to serve varied and healthy meals. He still doesn’t it a lot that we prepare, but he will try more and more. And the rest of us are enjoying our meals!

    • http://mutusystem.com/ wendy

      There’s a definite bolognaise theme going on isn’t there…?! It’s clear how much these children’s demands / needs impact on the whole family’s diet – it must be hard not to cater to their limited choices all the time, if only for an easy (er) life. Well done!

  • Louise

    Hi All,

    When my Son, who has High functioning Autism, was at his worst with food (I’m talking ham sandwiches only.) We made a food book and in that was everything he did like. I agreed that he would only ever have items from the food book – the book had pictures also. At meal times this took away the stress of an unknown food being served up and he knew he would only be given things he liked. We gradually built this up by him trying new things at times during the day (NOT MEAL TIMES) and by mutual agreement they would go in the book. He now has a very varied diet and we no longer need the food book. It worked for us I think because it removed the stress away from meal times for everyone, so instead of WW3 every dinner/ lunch/ breakfast we could enjoy our food and it became a family time again.

    To make sure he was eating healthily I would mix and match things he liked. He may of had an odd meal on his plate but it covered most of the food groups, kept him happy and full and removed his stress when eating.

    Hope this helps x

    • http://www.cardstitching.co.uk Sam

      WOW Louise, what a fantastic idea. This wouldn’t work with my youngest son but would be brilliant for my older son.

      I hope you don’t mind if I borrow your suggestion ;-) )

      Sam
      x

  • Tracy

    I like to sometimes make a little menu card and pretend we are at a cafe. They can choose their meals and deserts etc. And make them feel grown up. I make mocktails too with crushed ice and crushed fruit.