I want her to claim the skies… not my hang-ups.
It’s not just our looks we pass onto our kids – but our attitude too and though we may hate the thought of it, our hang-ups. It’s often been said that our children don’t learn to do what we tell them to do, they learn to do what they see us do.
You climb the wall every time you see a spider, you can bet your kid’s going to have a fear of creepy crawlies. You shy away from the limelight, there’s a strong chance they will too. You moan about your wobbly tummy and muffin top, they may well start to examine their own bodies and see imperfections.
So if you ever find yourself talking negatively about your body in front of littl’uns, please stop.
Stop, because you could be giving them reason to question the way they look – if not now, then sometime in the future. Stop, because to them, you are mum, and you are good enough. You are a strong, capable, loving woman… and you ARE good enough.
If you don’t like what you see in the mirror, then by all means do something. Take little steps towards exercising effectively; make adjustments to how you eat. Slowly, as you see and feel the benefits, you will build your body confidence.
You can do it for yourself – or you can do it for your kids, who need a happy, healthy, confident mum if they are going to be happy, healthy and confidence too. Your positivity, if you can find it, will be infectious. Love the person YOU are, and teach your children by example to love themselves too.
As your child starts to open their eyes to their body and compare it to others’ – it’s your opportunity to nurture their body image and help them feel happy in their skin.
You will not only look better, but you will find the energy to run, skip, play, tumble and climb with your child. Which is as great for your body and uplifting for your mind as it is for theirs.