I saw an article pop up on my newsfeed the other day that promised to show me how to ‘Hide My Problem Areas During Sex’…

Firstly, what the heck is a ‘problem area’ of my body? Should I have a warning sign or something so my husband can navigate his way round this so-called problem area? I mean, I’d hate him to get offended or lose interest when he gets there. Oh pleeease.

On the receiving end of such ridiculous headlines, is it any wonder we’re all so negative about certain parts of our bodies, especially if those body parts have changed since having kids. Tummies are a touchy subject for a lot of women. We’re always being told how to cover or ‘disguise’ our tummies, ‘minimize’ our waist, ‘banish’ stretch marks and now you want me to focus on hiding my ‘problem areas’ when having sex? The only thing I want to be thinking about during sex is SEX. Thank-you-very-much.

I’ve lost count of the number of tums I’ve seen through my work, all different shapes, sizes, colours, textures, patterns. All unique and glorious in their own way.

I know you have felt or do feel disconnected from certain areas of your body right now and that’s okay, you won’t always and don’t have to feel like this. With the right exercises you can and will start to feel that connection fire up again. By hiding, covering up, referring to your tummy as a ‘problem area’, you’re only making that connection weaker, sending negative resentful messages to your own body and that’s not okay.

Things that are not okay and you shouldn’t put up with

  • A tummy that feels like it’s unstable or falling out at the front.
  • A doming stomach when you exercise or do certain movements.
  • A poochy tummy caused by intra-abdominal pressure.
  • A diastasis (gap in the abdominal muscles) of three fingers or more.

Things that are totally okay and you should celebrate and chill about

  • A soft tummy… or a toned tummy.
  • Scars.
  • Stretch marks.
  • A strong core that mean you no longer get back pain or injuries from lifting your children!

Get to know what’s okay and what’s not rather than ignoring your tummy. Embrace it, listen to it and love it enough to help it heal and recover properly.

Learn more about the MUTU System award winning 12 week program here. Our program is designed specifically with busy mamas in mind to help fix diastasis recti, build strength in your core and pelvic floor and get your mojo back!