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People asking you when your baby\u2019s due (when the answers is ‘9 weeks ago’), when sex hurts, when you can\u2019t stop crying, you wet yourself, and you literally do not recognise your body. So much for the bliss of motherhood. When will you feel \u2018normal\u2019 again postpartum?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Heard in ‘Connect’<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

A Mum in our MUTU membership forum, Connect<\/a>, posted this last week. I felt her as I read this, like really felt<\/em> her. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019m having a really hard time\u2026 I\u2019m still flabby. Still fat. I\u2019m 9 weeks postpartum and I still feel sore \u201cdown there\u201d. I had a really bad tear… It\u2019s better but I\u2019m still not normal. I\u2019m so scared of sex and I\u2019ve cried the two times we attempted it\u2026. This time last year I was a crossfitter with a six pack. Am I ever going to feel normal again??? Sorry for the information overload and negativity\u2026\u2026I am just overwhelmed by everything. Will I ever feel \u2018normal\u2019 again?”<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

What IS ‘normal’ to feel postpartum?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

For physical symptoms and your body after baby, what’s normal and what isn’t, head here<\/a>. But let’s talk THE FEELINGS. Because this woman wasn’t just talking about ‘the way her body looks.’ She feels like she has lost her self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"MUTU<\/a><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

Know this first: it will pass. I know that sounds trite, but it feels like forever, and it isn’t forever. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And next and just as important: There is nothing wrong with you, you\u2019ve done nothing wrong, failed at nothing. In fact it’s the opposite. Every beautiful or calm birth experience, and every traumatic birth experience<\/a>, affects us physically, emotionally, in our mental health and in our very sense of self. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your post-pregnancy sex<\/a> life doesn\u2019t feel as good as you deserve it to. YOU don\u2019t feel as good as you deserve to. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you’re used to working out, to being in control<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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As an athlete and regular exerciser (if you work out regularly you are an athlete. If you birthed a human, you’re an athlete. Own that). You’re used to being in control \u2013 in the sense that \u2018if I do this more \/ faster \/ heavier \/ longer then I know I will see and feel these direct results in my body\u2019. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019re mourning a physicality that felt good to you, and that feels lost and out of your control. It\u2019s a lot. You\u2019re allowed to feel it.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Postpartum everything feels so different and what we used to do \u2013 *doesn\u2019t* have the same result. Your body is simply not able to withstand the same loads and intensity for now, that it used to. On top of that, if you had a particularly physically damaging birth, you also need to HEAL before \u2018stronger, faster or anything else\u2019er\u2019 is possible. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first stage my Love, is to show yourself compassion. Kindness. You are a survivor #Queen to have gone through what you did. Hold, touch your own body, love it, be grateful. Your body is incredible and your strength and fitness helped you. Show yourself gratitude for that too \u2013 for your commitment to take care of your body. She needs slightly different care for now. Time. Patience, compassion and healing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When it’s hard to take it slow<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

MUTU will guide you<\/a>. Take your time, I know how hard that might be for you, I really do. But know that our body and our journey is not linear, it\u2019s ever changing, evolving. Your body went through hard stuff, and now it needs to heal. not be beast-ed in the gym or resented for surviving and changing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Talk to your partner abut how you feel, talk about how you both feel about this body that has mothered and will look and feel different. Find your new ways and have fun with it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When will you feel \u2018normal\u2019 again postpartum?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You will feel like you again. Normal again. Know that whatever it is you want to get back to doing, you absolutely can achieve and exceed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But in order to get there, patience and building the foundations now are absolutely essential. Think of it in layers. Like a workout progression. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You have a new baseline and you need to heal and connect first. Second you will start again to recruit and engage your muscle system, they\u2019ll get fired up again. And only then can you effectively strengthen again. The foundations are the secret sauce. Modules 1 and 2, Core 1<\/a>, are literally the  basis of everything that we layer on top. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Show yourself some love, acknowledge your new baseline without resentment or bitterness, and build your next version of you. Sending \u2764 <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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